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What Tools Have You Used From Your Mental Health Tool Box This Week?
Watched problematic feelings as they came up. Called them by name. Interrupted them.
Sought input from friends, an appropriate helping professional, or wrote about your feelings.
Problem-solved difficulties and issues. Looked for self defeating beliefs under chronic issues.
Made amends to anyone you hurt. Remembered love is being big enough to say you are sorry.
Listened to constructive criticism. Increased self esteem by learning something useful.
Interrupted your self-defeating thoughts.
Let others take responsibility for their problems. Dealt with guilt and needing to intervene.
Refused to take on the put downs of others. Asserted self and set appropriate
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Accepted your angry feelings and expressed them in safe, appropriate ways.
Looked at a shadow part of self. Owned your projections of anger at others.
Caught stress build up that preceded addictions use.
Felt the highs of addiction and called it by name. Observed how addictive behavior was rationalized.
Stayed with uncomfortable feelings to understand them instead of using a substance or activity to deaden pain.
Used stress management techniques of deep breathing, meditation, progressive relaxation, etc . . .
Observed self judging and criticizing others. Broke into control issues and looked at own problems.
Felt good about achieving self growth and personal power rather than trying to fix others.
Focused on respecting others. Enjoyed or accepted differences rather than judging them.
Felt universal connection with others. Felt lovable and expressed that love to others.
When confused, turned to the Higher Self or prayer for answers.
Remember, no matter what the confusion, love is always the answer.
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